How to be a good person
Hey, there, good people! I am glad to see you
here, on Antheya’s channel! Today, I will share with you some insights of how
to cultivate the qualities of a genuinely good person.
We live in a world where good seems to always
be deficient. The modern human condition interpretation seems to be focused on acquiring
technological prowess and multifunctional tangibles and yet, the things we miss
the most are guised in the basic, intimate human relational space, where we have
developed in disengagement and reluctance, rather than in understanding,
closeness and harmony.
And yet, you are here, watching this video,
braving to accomplish something many are afraid of even trying – find the genuine
version of yourself.
Now let’s see, how do we do that little magic?
Step 1. Try to
understand the world as it is. The first intellectual and spiritual premise of a good man is to accept
reality. They do not complain or try to change it. The good man, therefore, is
always wise. He knows that the ways of the Universe are too complex for any
single mind to comprehend.
There is a fragile balance that exists in the
world, and the good person knows that its goal is to find that equilibrium within
and project it outside the self. Complains and worries never solved a problem.
It is so true. Neither has angst against reality, when it is confronted without
a deeper understanding. To be good is to be open and comprehensive, collecting
knowledge by observing things and learning about their and not our logic.
Step 2. Be patient. All things here said are
correlated. Being understanding and observant requires time. What life demands
is our quality time dedicated to the world and others, not to ourselves. Patience
is time spent with the desire to connect to the world with peaceful
understanding. Good people do not violate or rush things, they let things take
their inner flow and follow it, learning about the world while observing it in
its most natural state.
Step 3. Be genuinely interested. A good heart is a true heart. Lies may deceive others but they have only temporary effect. Concealment and deceit have short lives. A heart that dwells in lies would eventually lose calm and control over itself and the situation. That heart is too stressed to be at peace and too concentrated at the moment to see life’s bigger picture. It distorts the connections of reality while its untrue creation compromises them. Lying, cheating, pretending and bullying are all shortcuts of the Ego to get what it wants, but they come on the expense of the most essential bonds of each relation – honesty, trust and loyalty.
Show the ones you love that you care. Ask, share,
participate, encourage. Be there for your people, always, with body and soul.
Look inside and remember there is no greater gift in this world than knowing
there is someone you can call your friend.
Step 4. Accept we are
different. The fact
that we like or want something doesn’t make it a Universal value. A good heart
knows that. We all have our ways and preferences, tastes and desires, and that
is what makes life so versatile and fascinating. A friend is a friend even if
they don’t share all our interests and passions.
Being good does not stand for being uniform or liked
by all. It means that we are who we are, respecting and acknowledging the other
and that we value and celebrate their difference and uniqueness in expectation
for their reciprocity.
Step 5. Make people
happy, don’t please them. There is a great difference between genuinely understanding someone’s
needs, and blindly conforming with what is expected. We are different, that
means we naturally gravitate towards our circles of interests and friends.
Being accepted by everyone, means you don’t
possess a well-established and substantial identity. You fluctuate and change
at your core, where you must be unquenchable. Being good means being both solid
Sometimes, what one wants is the contrary to
the other’s desire. How could one please all sides when their demands are
opposite and contradictory? We can’t. And we should not try.
Being good means to do what is in your heart,
confidently and consistently, setting a good example of benevolence and
integrity, aiming to make people inherently happy, not just temporarily satisfied.
Step 6. Be consistent. Do not falter or betray your words. Those around you should feel that you are a stronghold of your beliefs and trust you for who you are. The declaration you make for your identity should equal your identity.
Good men are committed and decisive, bravely
standing for what is in their hearts. Defending our beliefs means exploring both
the world and our perceptions, and finding what truly matters to us! Goodness,
therefore, is directly connected to self-knowledge and observation, a long path
one must take on their way to betterment and wisdom.
If your behavior lets people think you are uncertain
in your mind and feelings, this is a genuine indicator you subconsciously sent
to your close ones and partners for possible untrustworthiness and disloyalty. A
good person doesn’t let people question or doubt his true intentions.
Step 7. Goodness
is enacted not declared. It is vital that people can trust you judging from
your actions, so that they believe in your good will and not only your desires
and intents. Your words are declarations, promises for the future. It would be
a duty to the good man to fulfil them and encourage others to do the same.
Igniting people’s hopes and then failing to fulfil them may lead to permanent
loss of trust and credibility. It is not rare where one ends broken-hearted not
by evil intents but merely by unfulfilled promises. A good man values the
credit of trust he had been given and does not let others down.
Step 8. Being good is for champions. A good man sets an example. The good do not need shortcuts and excuses to achieve what they work for, while usually they set for the highest goals. The benevolent do as they feel because they know their hearts and always follow their call. A champion is a conqueror and victor of life full of trials and tribulations, unafraid and prepared for all challenges at hand. He knows that meanness is for the petty, who think values and relations are subjective and interchangeable. A good man is always stronger than those of evil, because champions know they are an exquisite minority who would have to endure more to achieve the best.
The good soul knows it is so easy to be bad and
break the rules of common life’s fabric. It is also aware that caring for life
and preserving its balance is much harder that living in greedy selfishness and
that its efforts would not necessarily be welcome with gratitude. Still, the
good knows that protecting and sustaining life is the deepest meaning for all
Step 9. Smile. The good man radiates happiness and
kindness. He is like a mountain of serenity, a secret keeper of the gentlest
heart. A good man nourishes the child within, never foolish or naïve, he
cultivates an inextinguishable attention and curiosity for the world, blended
with high spirit and uplifting humor. Good people never put others down,
corrupt or use the world for their own purposes. It is their task to construe a
reality of positive thoughts, where everyone learns and develops in the spirit
of mutual trust and shared harmony. The good encourages acts of closeness and peaceful
communication, avoiding all conflict and protagonism.
Step 10. Know evil, yet do good. Good people know evil, to the surprise of many, even better than the ones enhanced by its dark charms. The good heart has experienced and grown beyond affliction. It has faced doubt, betrayal and injustice, but did not stumble and succumb to their disruptive rule. On the contrary, it grew stronger. Being good means cumulating immense inner power, and using it for rectifying the deeds of the wretched, immature, impatient and hurt.
The good knows that evil comes from grief not
properly proceeded. This is when the week mind encounters pain, multiplies and externalizes
it in respond to its callous effect, rather than accepting pain as a teacher, carrying
lessons to be learnt and overcome.
The good does not compare – nether themselves,
nor the others. They think of everyone as a treasure, valuable to the world
like no one else. The good heart realizes its mission to help others see their unique
qualities and celebrate life’s diversity in harmonious unity.
Thank you and be good!