Meditation over the psyche in the ages has taught us that fear is one of the most concerning emotions, which not only imposes frustration and anxiety against the world, but also induces its agent with the pathogen of aggression.
Time, you see, is the core of human stasis. The root of human perception is centered around the interpretation of the dissolution of time. I am not the first to claim that life, among all, is the moment of possession of a self. It is the realized and meaningful duration of the self’s time. Passing is laden with meaning and estimation. Time is the canvass of life’s realization, the presence of man and the world altogether.
experienced difficulties getting close with others? Are you shying away from
people’s company or just value your alone time but still crave meaningful human
connection? Here are some things you can do to improve your social skills and
befriend easily those whom you like.
Be genuine. The most important thing
in any future relationship is honesty and openness. Even if you doubt the high
value of your personal qualities, let the others choose for themselves what
friends they want to be surrounded with. Allow yourself the luxury to shine
with your own light and you will draw the right people to you with your unique
personality and special disposition.
Be reliable and generous. One should
always consider the interests of those that they care about. Give friends your
time, attention and helping hand. If somebody knows they can lean on you in
time of hardship, then they will count on you and regard you as a true friend. Give
and support are the two essential ingredients of building trust, the most vital
cohesion of any relationship.
Stay loyal. There are billions of
people in this world and too many of them are highly interesting and
attractive. It is normal to be drawn to popular and extraordinary people but do
not let your friends down because you have found somebody new, only to realize
that they were a short-lived, temporary fascination. If you betray a friend,
the trust could never be restored in its initial state. Meaningful
relationships grow in time and only they stand to its test.
Criticize and support. A real friend
will always slam you with the truth and never speak of your faults behind your
back. Criticism is a part of every mature relationship and the other should
understand that only a true friend would criticize because they want to help
and consider options of improvement. Support your friends in their time of
making hard decisions and be there when they are at their lowest. Having fun
means you do well together, but surviving the storms of life is what makes you
Listen and show care. Sometimes all
a person needs is a warm hug and the ear of a good listener. Advise them only
when they ask. Do that for your friends and that will consolidate your bond
even further. Be there when they say they need you. One proves their worth by
acts and not by words of care. Demonstrate your friendship to the world with
Learn to forgive. We all make
mistakes; that is human nature. If the intent was malicious and to a harmful
effect, no one should be forgiven, but if they meant no wrong, then a true
friend is to show understanding and acceptance for the mistake when there is
repentance and willingness to change. All friendships hit a moment where the
ability to forgive is tested and if not developed, that beautiful connection
Have fun together. Friends share
their wildest thoughts and deepest secrets because they have been through
everything together. But the most significant sign there is a genuine
friendship is the natural inclination of people to spend time together simply
because they enjoy it! When you find those who make your heart sing, do not let
them go! They are the hardest to find. True friends are never too many and are
the biggest treasure one can have.
So find them, keep them and enjoy their precious presence!
Being successful is a question of mindset. It is not, as many would think, objectively measurable in money, luxurious possessions, influence or titles of high social standing. If you want to know what can help you reach your ideal self faster, then read on.
Organize your time. Whatever you do, the reason you may find your efforts unproductive is the way you organize your tasks and see your goals through. Time is vital for any project execution. Make a plan and follow it. Make lists and note the accomplished. Establish a daily routine and do not falter. Well-organized people are way more effective than those relying on chance and improvisation, to which they keep an open mind but never solely rely.
Set goals. Diversify and prioritize. A successful mind is a highly productive source of ideas and creations. It is vital to be able to choose and focus in timely manner on the task at hand, regardless of the immense amount of suggestions which evade the mind. There is always something more and less important. A successful man knows how to distinct between the two regarding their feasibility and importance. That is why he clearly defines his immediate and lifelong goals, extracting them from the endless ocean of alluring possibilities. He makes a big dream come true by turning it into a chain of smaller, realizable tasks, marking a progress with every step on his long way.
Do as many things as you can. Yes, that is right. A productive mind is never lazy. What is more, it is always invigorated by a new concept or idea while entertaining the tasks at hand. A successful mind is a curious explorer never settling for what’s given. You have to diversify your interests and constantly broaden your horizons. That means also physically performing as many tasks as you can. A sound mind lives in a sound body. Keep your health, shape and mental condition always at their best by engaging your body and mind in diverse and fascinating activities.
Be good at everything you do. If you settle for mediocrity, then mediocrity will be your best. Aim as high as you can and never be completely satisfied with the achieved. That does not mean to become greedy – on the contrary. A successful man is grateful for everything they have, yet never stop aspiring for personal development and social evolution.
Help others. No one can be really successful in an ambience of misery and overall lack of progress. Evolution is a group process that involves our whole environment; the successful person knows that and aims at bettering the conditions of growth for everyone. The mind of a champion does not fear competition but welcomes it as the natural engine of faster and more effective development.
Think for the future. Every winner is a visionary. Such people don’t dwell on the past. They learn its lessons and move on to create the vision of the world they hold in their hearts. They are not dragged by the painful memories of past failures but are driven ever forward by chasing their ideal for the future. The mindset of a champion is persistent and never gives up, regardless of the obstacles and errors, and always finds a way to stand up and move forward to see their vision fulfilled.
Believe in yourself. No matter what you do, in your personal and professional life, define the most significant desire, turn it into a realizable goal, and commit to it with all your heart. You will be your decisions biggest supporter and most ardent defender. Your belief should not falter and become the contagious flame that would ignite others to believe in your vision, too!
Are you in
the search for the right partner? Do not worry, so is everyone on this planet. Finding
the one may not be easy but it is certainly worth the efforts.
See beyond attraction. Being physically attracted to someone may feel very intense and uncontrollable. People mistaken that passionate lift for love and often feel disappointed when it ends, shuttering their dreams and hearts. It is vital that one sees the traits of passion and infatuation and recognizes them as such – it is very likely that love would grow from such intense feeling, but it takes much more than mere attraction to be realized as love.
Work hard to make it happen. Once you have found someone you are genuinely attracted to, you have to start building a relationship so that you can be the right partner for them. You are not the right one, you become one! Building a relation takes constant effort and change and requires a lot of understanding, mutual growth and compromises. It will be your biggest investment of time, effort, and personal resources. If you are not ready to make this commitment, don’t expect to get much from the relationship at hand.
Be equal and be different. To establish a meaningful connection there should be a sense of equal importance between the two partners. No one is more or less than the other in regards to significance and impact on the relationship. There are no masters and servants when it comes to love. However, that does not mean that we should be treating each other in the same way. That means that it is just fine if the one is more assertive while the other – more obedient and gentle. While your hobbies and interests may not be all the same, find a way to respect your loved one’s free time and enjoy doing as many things as you can it together.
Follow the dynamics of your bond. Every relationship is different. Do not look at others and listen to them when it comes to matters of your heart. You know best how to commit to your significant other and that is the exact reason they chose you to be their soul’s companion. Your relationship is unique and you should not try to make it follow some expected patterns and traditions. If you nurture the genuine bond that made attracted, then you would have a long and mutually fulfilling relationship.
Love your partner as they want to be loved. That is an old physiological find – one loves quietly, other – possessively, third – from a distance, forth – passionately and obsessively. Do not try to change that! If you love your partner, you will try to find what their preferred way to commit is and allow them to love you as they best can, as you expect the same in return. Your lover is your best friend – treat them with understanding of who they are and encourage them to unfold and develop their true personality.
Do not become dependent on your partner. There is a fine line between passionate love and suffocating neediness. Do not cross it! Have your own interests, friends, engagements, resources. Love does not hurt, but helps and nurtures. Have fun with your lover, not scandals and rows. Your loved one will always respect you for your independence and ability to cope with life. A strong and self-realized partner is what everyone craves for. Building a relationship with a person who knows their worth and value keeps respect between partners alive and brings pride of such commitment. Be positive, genuine and honest, in the relationship and with the rest of the world.
Be loyal and give freedom. Do not play games. Show your partner they are exclusive and be true to your declarations of love. Give them air to breathe and free space to develop and they will always come back for more. Remember – love is not a prison but a nest. If you are able to nurture a relationship where mutual growth is promoted then you will have a lover and a friend, for life.
In love the more you give, the more you get! If
you feel that natural and elevating flow, then you have found the right one.