What is closeness, in the first place? It is, simply put, he desire to unite. I would even deem that desire is more essential than the actual state of closeness between things, but that argument I will make in a later point of this conversation, if you allow me. – The girl continued. – Closeness, as you described it, is a type of selective abstraction from what we can observe and formulate for ourselves, assisting the mind to make sense of the unencompassable Universe. That is a closeness the mind sees and calls objective, since it needs only the discovery of an observable similarity to be detected. But, I deem, there are types of closeness that are beyond what we can formulate by observance and in one of these occasions, I see the possibility to explain a specific mechanism of love’s operation.

In the world of things, many alike are just similar but not close because of desire, for they are attracted to things away from their most common counterparts and yet more appealing to their senses. Attraction functions sometimes rather counterintuitively, for it does not look for the best match in relation to objectively observable similarities, but follows the principle of want in search for traits that may not be beneficiary to any involved in the desire-driven relation. I would therefore say that what we think love should be, it is not. If we tend to find sense in it, as we do when we define similarities, we won’t accomplish much.1


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